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Ksenia Novikova: “I do not know how to choose men”

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"

Photo: from the archive of K. Novikova

Recently I complained to my mother: "For some reason, everyone with whom. The first is a fraudster and a recidivist, the second is a loafer and a drink lover, the third is a liar and a womanizer. Should I ever meet a good, worthy man? "

Parents, of course. We together experienced all my love epics. They are generally hard to believe that such stories happen in life. He was four years old, and she was six months old. That is, they have a long love story. Therefore, my mother is going through, even trying to put the blame on myself:

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"

Photo: from the archive of K. Novikova

Recently I complained to my mother: "For some reason, everyone with whom. The first is a fraudster and a recidivist, the second is a loafer and a drink lover, the third is a liar and a womanizer. Should I ever meet a good, worthy man? "

Parents, of course. We together experienced all my love epics. They are generally hard to believe that such stories happen in life. He was four years old, and she was six months old. That is, they have a long love story. Therefore, my mother is going through, even trying to put the blame on myself:

– Daughter, it’s my fault! I grew you very open, trusting. You live in pink glasses.

– No, Mom. I just can not be insidious and evil. Such was born. Thank you and Dad – you are my only support in life.

The truth about my first choice was open shortly before the wedding, and I literally fled from under the crown. It was by accident that my friend saw him. It turned out that she knew this guy several years ago under a different surname! Andrei is from Vologda. By happy coincidence, my uncle served as the head of the criminal police, and he immediately struck the groom in the base. It turned out that he had a rich criminal past. All his wives were daughters of high-ranking people. Some time after the marriage. Just Bluebeard! Until now, I believe that God saved me … Immediately I canceled the wedding without explanation. But I think he understood that he was being revealed, because I never saw him again.

In 2006, I met the future father of my children, Andrei Sereda. Our love was like a bright flash. Constant parting: my tours, his life in two countries – between Moscow and London – only warmed up the passion, we were even drawn to each other. Andrew admits that he really wants children. In the previous marriage, they did not work with his wife. I answered that I am ready to stop my career.

Soon after we began to live together, I left the group "Brilliant" to spend more time with my beloved. He never asked me to leave the stage, did everything to avoid reproaches in the future. But for example, I’m leaving for a tour, and he gives me a message: "My friends have a wedding in Corsica. Now would fly there. Can you imagine how great it would be?! "You stand and think: Well, they’re on the stage, these tours!

As a result, I came to the producers: "All you guys, let go! I love – I can not! "At the same time, I continued to appear at social events, gave interviews to magazines, telling how I had acquired real happiness.

While engaged in the house, Andrei worked. In the office he had never been, but often heard himself negotiating over the phone. Soon I became pregnant, visits to doctors, consultations, births and diapers began …

Then I found out what kind of business. With whom they were "worked" together, that is, over a glass of wine. Financiers are fiction writers! Read more "

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"

Photo: from the archive of K. Novikova

You can ask, where did our money come from? His wonderful dad, who was born in the world, took care of the family. Formed something like a trust fund, and when he died, my mother periodically gave me money for a comfortable existence. But she was tired of providing her son’s oxygen. I explained the lack of money to Andrei by the fact that he had problems at the firm: they say, the crisis, we must tighten our belts. I had to ask for help from my parents for food and diapers. Since I was already pregnant with a second child, a nanny appeared in the house. To somehow make ends meet, while a loved one one tried to "get things going," I sold my jewelry.

When we did not have enough money even for food, and the father of my children became aggressive for the first time, I decided to look for a lawyer because I did not intend to live with him.

Andrei never hit me, but if I drank, I started to pinch a lot. This was seen in the room where I was hiding. My legs were all bruised. Once I tried to pinch my face. It became clear that further it would only get worse, we must urgently run.

My fears were justified the same evening. My mom put the baby to bed. Enraged by something, Andrei smashed the stained-glass door, and the fragments flew to Myron, not injuring him by a miracle. The next day I collected my things and moved with my children to my parents.

Despite the fact that there was no trace of love, I wanted to maintain good relations. Andrei did not seem to mind either. When, for the first time after our break, my father took Miron and Bogdan for the weekend, I did not suspect that he could take them away from me forever. But it happened: Sereda took them to London.

I literally died, left alone. First, I hid all the pictures of the children, I thought it would be easier. Did not help. Then I filled all the walls of the apartment with their portraits. And she looked at them, watched … She lived from a call to a call to London. Sometimes I was allowed to talk to the boys for a few minutes. Sometimes – no.

Andrew reproached: "What kind of mother are you? Do not come, do not stand on your knees in front of me and do not beg! "To God, she would stand and howled. But I understood that Andrei wanted a performance, my humiliation, and then they would forgive me with my mother.

I forbade myself to go to London and hysterical. Just the day before I saw the program, as women try to return their children stolen by their husbands, climbing over fences and spending the night. I will not do it. I decided to prepare documents, appealed to different authorities. Unfortunately, all inquiries to London were, I was offered to sue.

Nine months later, I learned that Andrei and his children were flying to Spain, where he had an apartment. So coincided that his mother was ill, and there was no nurse. He called:

– And we are now in Spain. Myron is sick, the temperature is forty. Read more "

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"Andrey Sereda

I say:

– Come on, I’ll come, I’ll help.

Is he:

– Well, come. Help me. Especially at us now with nannies napryazhenka.

And it was the best offer I had not even dreamed of. In England, he has the advantage of citizenship, and in Spain we are equal. Without a second’s hesitation, she rushed to the airport. The lawyer started translating documents for the Spanish court. We had a Russian solution – an amicable agreement. It is said that the children stay with their mother and the father can take them only on the weekend.

For ten days we lived together in an apartment and from the side. Andrei behaved very calmly, and since I knew that Masha Timofeevskaya, my lawyer, was already preparing the documents, played up to him. We did not say a word about the situation, but I realized that an explosion could just happen. It was a psychological game, like in thrillers.

At one point, a message came from Maria that she had given the documents to the consulate. I must be ready to go out with the children. Unfortunately, Andrei managed to read the message, but he did not submit the form. He said only: "In the evening we fly to London, I booked tickets." I nod, go up to my bag and understand that he rummaged in my things. Fortunately, the documents fell under the lining.

She waited until he left the room, grabbed the children, and we quietly left the apartment. And there’s the twentieth floor – it’s impossible to run up the stairs, Bogdan is only two years old. An elevator opens, and at this second, like in a movie, the brutal Andrew flies out of the apartment, pushes us back into the apartment.

Masha comes up, rings the door, no one opens it. The neighbors jumped and heard about the kidnapping, they themselves called the police.

The authorities are forced to open the door. At the same time I am holding on to the last forces, I understand that if I pay now, they will think: "Some Russian hysterical woman" – and even listen to me will not.

We were all taken to the station. Immediately Andrei is sent to a local lawyer, and my Masha does not have the right to conduct advocacy in the territory of Spain. They propose to write a statement. And suddenly I look – Andrew and the children are already released. I understand that now he will board an airplane and I will never see Myron again with Bogdan.

The policeman who took me in and asked what I do in Russia. I said that the singer was a loud resonance. This person wentogle my name on the Internet and when I got into the heart of the matter, suddenly amazing things began to happen. In principle, in Spain they are actively fighting for the rights of women, they just could not understand our documents from the beginning, or they did not want to bother. But seeing that the story is really on hearing, immediately connected the civil guards, called Interpol. In order to return Andrei, they call to the front, before finding out the situation in court, they close all the ways for him to leave.

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"Ksenia Novikova

We come to court. While they were reaching me, I was throbbed with nervous shivers. Let go, only when I saw the judge in shorts. I am given a local lawyer, a psychologist, who checks the mother for adequacy. He has a long conversation with me through an interpreter. A meeting begins, at which Andrei’s lawyer is present. He, realizing that everything is serious, is trying to contact the client to return. As the children told me later, they first rode in the same car, then changed it and all night rode around the city, as the lawyer had already informed Sereda that all roads were blocked and demanded to appear voluntarily in court – otherwise it would be worse.

At two o’clock in the morning, on the basis of the conclusion of the psychologist and the decision of the court. And also because Andrei locked me up in the apartment and did not open the police for a long time, plus my bruises were documented in the documents, which he had inflicted in Russia, the court forbade him to approach the former beloved for less than five hundred meters. I keep thinking, how does it work? When Masha and I arrived at the hotel, policemen who watched our security were seen through the window.

In the morning I still did not know if I could find Andrei. We went to court, where everyone was aware of and was imbued with our history. Here the court secretary – a girl with chips, in shorts – walks by and shows Andrei’s passport in clear terms: they say, here he is.

Then the judge asked: "How did you live with this person? We have before him the documents, where his hand signed consent, that the children lived with their mother. And he gets baptized and says it’s a lie! "As a result, the children were given to me. They were at his house with a nanny, and as soon as the policeman opened the door, we rushed to each other in embrace.

When they returned to Russia, the boys were silent for the first they were frightened. Then they told about their life in London. It turned out that the younger most of the day was isolated from Myron. Bogdan always stayed with the nanny, and the elder dad is always carried with him. Andrew arranged a showy story: the child is three years old, and he is in the company of patrons of the zoo and is the sponsor of the giraffe. I gave it to kickboxing, which was reported to everyone. I met. Bogdan was worse off. Myron is still with his father, and the baby with nannies. For any offense a one and a half-year-old was locked in a room where he was sitting alone and yelling for fear.

Myron once told a story about a London ghost.

– Daddy put me in bed in the evening and went to work, and when I came back, I was already asleep. Once I woke up and was very frightened, behind the window was a ghost.

"And what did you do, son?"

– Dad already returned, but did not sleep on the bed, but next to him on the floor. I woke him up, but he did not wake up. He did not wake up. I cried for a long time, then I covered myself with a blanket and fell asleep.

That is, Dad left the night "to work" in the bar and tired so that he could not get to the bed. Of course, it was difficult for the children. But at the same time between them was a very strong brotherly love and intimacy. This hard story of the boys rallied. Read more "

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"Photo: from the archive of K. Novikova

Since then, Andrew did not appear and never called the children. But repeatedly appealed to the court to reduce the amount of alimony. There, however, already the debt was formed. Now he was given a minimum wage – about twelve thousand rubles – and the money began to come periodically. In any case, he is the father of my children, and I wish him happiness.

I returned to the group "Brilliant". Worked a lot. For three years I had no relationship. I could not even imagine that I would introduce someone to Miron and Bogdan. I was comfortable with my beloved boys and parents who lived next to us.

Often I heard from friends that. It seemed to me stupid: "If a man loves you, he will love your continuation. And in general in relation to another’s child at once it is possible to understand, that for the person before you ". How could I be wrong!

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"Photo: from the archive of K. Novikova

Recently I complained to my mother: "For some reason, everyone with whom. The first is a fraudster and a recidivist, the second is a loafer and a drink lover, the third is a liar and a womanizer. Should I ever meet a good, worthy man? "

Parents, of course. We together experienced all my love epics. They are generally hard to believe that such stories happen in life. He was four years old, and she was six months old. That is, they have a long love story. Therefore, my mother is going through, even trying to put the blame on myself:

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"Photo: from the archive of K. Novikova

Recently I complained to my mother: "For some reason, everyone with whom. The first is a fraudster and a recidivist, the second is a loafer and a drink lover, the third is a liar and a womanizer. Should I ever meet a good, worthy man? "

Parents, of course. We together experienced all my love epics. They are generally hard to believe that such stories happen in life. He was four years old, and she was six months old. That is, they have a long love story. Therefore, my mother is going through, even trying to put the blame on myself:

– Daughter, it’s my fault! I grew you very open, trusting. You live in pink glasses.

– No, Mom. I just can not be insidious and evil. Such was born. Thank you and Dad – you are my only support in life.

The truth about my first choice was open shortly before the wedding, and I literally fled from under the crown. It was by accident that my friend saw him. It turned out that she knew this guy several years ago under a different surname! Andrei is from Vologda. By happy coincidence, my uncle served as the head of the criminal police, and he immediately struck the groom in the base. It turned out that he had a rich criminal past. All his wives were daughters of high-ranking people. Some time after the marriage. Just Bluebeard! Until now, I believe that God saved me … Immediately I canceled the wedding without explanation. But I think he understood that he was being revealed, because I never saw him again.

In 2006, I met the future father of my children, Andrei Sereda. Our love was like a bright flash. Constant parting: my tours, his life in two countries – between Moscow and London – only warmed up the passion, we were even drawn to each other. Andrew admits that he really wants children. In the previous marriage, they did not work with his wife. I answered that I am ready to stop my career.

Soon after we began to live together, I left the group "Brilliant" to spend more time with my beloved. He never asked me to leave the stage, did everything to avoid reproaches in the future. But for example, I’m leaving for a tour, and he gives me a message: "My friends have a wedding in Corsica. Now would fly there. Can you imagine how great it would be?! "You stand and think: Well, they’re on the stage, these tours!

As a result, I came to the producers: "All you guys, let go! I love – I can not! "At the same time, I continued to appear at social events, gave interviews to magazines, telling how I had acquired real happiness.

While engaged in the house, Andrei worked. In the office he had never been, but often heard himself negotiating over the phone. Soon I became pregnant, visits to doctors, consultations, births and diapers began …

Then I found out what kind of business. With whom they were "worked" together, that is, over a glass of wine. Financiers are fiction writers! Read more "

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"

Photo: from the archive of K. Novikova

You can ask, where did our money come from? His wonderful dad, who was born in the world, took care of the family. Formed something like a trust fund, and when he died, my mother periodically gave me money for a comfortable existence. But she was tired of providing her son’s oxygen. I explained the lack of money to Andrei by the fact that he had problems at the firm: they say, the crisis, we must tighten our belts. I had to ask for help from my parents for food and diapers. Since I was already pregnant with a second child, a nanny appeared in the house. To somehow make ends meet, while a loved one one tried to "get things going," I sold my jewelry.

When we did not have enough money even for food, and the father of my children became aggressive for the first time, I decided to look for a lawyer because I did not intend to live with him.

Andrei never hit me, but if I drank, I started to pinch a lot. This was seen in the room where I was hiding. My legs were all bruised. Once I tried to pinch my face. It became clear that further it would only get worse, we must urgently run.

My fears were justified the same evening. My mom put the baby to bed. Enraged by something, Andrei smashed the stained-glass door, and the fragments flew to Myron, not injuring him by a miracle. The next day I collected my things and moved with my children to my parents.

Despite the fact that there was no trace of love, I wanted to maintain good relations. Andrei did not seem to mind either. When, for the first time after our break, my father took Miron and Bogdan for the weekend, I did not suspect that he could take them away from me forever. But it happened: Sereda took them to London.

I literally died, left alone. First, I hid all the pictures of the children, I thought it would be easier. Did not help. Then I filled all the walls of the apartment with their portraits. And she looked at them, watched … She lived from a call to a call to London. Sometimes I was allowed to talk to the boys for a few minutes. Sometimes – no.

Andrew reproached: "What kind of mother are you? Do not come, do not stand on your knees in front of me and do not beg! "To God, she would stand and howled. But I understood that Andrei wanted a performance, my humiliation, and then they would forgive me with my mother.

I forbade myself to go to London and hysterical. Just the day before I saw the program, as women try to return their children stolen by their husbands, climbing over fences and spending the night. I will not do it. I decided to prepare documents, appealed to different authorities. Unfortunately, all inquiries to London were, I was offered to sue.

Nine months later, I learned that Andrei and his children were flying to Spain, where he had an apartment. So coincided that his mother was ill, and there was no nurse. He called:

– And we are now in Spain. Myron is sick, the temperature is forty. Read more "

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"

Andrey Sereda

I say:

– Come on, I’ll come, I’ll help.

Is he:

– Well, come. Help me. Especially at us now with nannies napryazhenka.

And it was the best offer I had not even dreamed of. In England, he has the advantage of citizenship, and in Spain we are equal. Without a second’s hesitation, she rushed to the airport. The lawyer started translating documents for the Spanish court. We had a Russian solution – an amicable agreement. It is said that the children stay with their mother and the father can take them only on the weekend.

For ten days we lived together in an apartment and from the side. Andrei behaved very calmly, and since I knew that Masha Timofeevskaya, my lawyer, was already preparing the documents, played up to him. We did not say a word about the situation, but I realized that an explosion could just happen. It was a psychological game, like in thrillers.

At one point, a message came from Maria that she had given the documents to the consulate. I must be ready to go out with the children. Unfortunately, Andrei managed to read the message, but he did not submit the form. He said only: "In the evening we fly to London, I booked tickets." I nod, go up to my bag and understand that he rummaged in my things. Fortunately, the documents fell under the lining.

She waited until he left the room, grabbed the children, and we quietly left the apartment. And there’s the twentieth floor – it’s impossible to run up the stairs, Bogdan is only two years old. An elevator opens, and at this second, like in a movie, the brutal Andrew flies out of the apartment, pushes us back into the apartment.

Masha comes up, rings the door, no one opens it. The neighbors jumped and heard about the kidnapping, they themselves called the police.

The authorities are forced to open the door. At the same time I am holding on to the last forces, I understand that if I pay now, they will think: "Some Russian hysterical woman" – and even listen to me will not.

We were all taken to the station. Immediately Andrei is sent to a local lawyer, and my Masha does not have the right to conduct advocacy in the territory of Spain. They propose to write a statement. And suddenly I look – Andrew and the children are already released. I understand that now he will board an airplane and I will never see Myron again with Bogdan.

The policeman who took me in and asked what I do in Russia. I said that the singer was a loud resonance. This person wentogle my name on the Internet and when I got into the heart of the matter, suddenly amazing things began to happen. In principle, in Spain they are actively fighting for the rights of women, they just could not understand our documents from the beginning, or they did not want to bother. But seeing that the story is really on hearing, immediately connected the civil guards, called Interpol. In order to return Andrei, they call to the front, before finding out the situation in court, they close all the ways for him to leave.

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"

Ksenia Novikova

We come to court. While they were reaching me, I was throbbed with nervous shivers. Let go, only when I saw the judge in shorts. I am given a local lawyer, a psychologist, who checks the mother for adequacy. He has a long conversation with me through an interpreter. A meeting begins, at which Andrei’s lawyer is present. He, realizing that everything is serious, is trying to contact the client to return. As the children told me later, they first rode in the same car, then changed it and all night rode around the city, as the lawyer had already informed Sereda that all roads were blocked and demanded to appear voluntarily in court – otherwise it would be worse.

At two o’clock in the morning, on the basis of the conclusion of the psychologist and the decision of the court. And also because Andrei locked me up in the apartment and did not open the police for a long time, plus my bruises were documented in the documents, which he had inflicted in Russia, the court forbade him to approach the former beloved for less than five hundred meters. I keep thinking, how does it work? When Masha and I arrived at the hotel, policemen who watched our security were seen through the window.

In the morning I still did not know if I could find Andrei. We went to court, where everyone was aware of and was imbued with our history. Here the court secretary – a girl with chips, in shorts – walks by and shows Andrei’s passport in clear terms: they say, here he is.

Then the judge asked: "How did you live with this person? We have before him the documents, where his hand signed consent, that the children lived with their mother. And he gets baptized and says it’s a lie! "As a result, the children were given to me. They were at his house with a nanny, and as soon as the policeman opened the door, we rushed to each other in embrace.

When they returned to Russia, the boys were silent for the first they were frightened. Then they told about their life in London. It turned out that the younger most of the day was isolated from Myron. Bogdan always stayed with the nanny, and the elder dad is always carried with him. Andrew arranged a showy story: the child is three years old, and he is in the company of patrons of the zoo and is the sponsor of the giraffe. I gave it to kickboxing, which was reported to everyone. I met. Bogdan was worse off. Myron is still with his father, and the baby with nannies. For any offense a one and a half-year-old was locked in a room where he was sitting alone and yelling for fear.

Myron once told a story about a London ghost.

– Daddy put me in bed in the evening and went to work, and when I came back, I was already asleep. Once I woke up and was very frightened, behind the window was a ghost.

"And what did you do, son?"

– Dad already returned, but did not sleep on the bed, but next to him on the floor. I woke him up, but he did not wake up. He did not wake up. I cried for a long time, then I covered myself with a blanket and fell asleep.

That is, Dad left the night "to work" in the bar and tired so that he could not get to the bed. Of course, it was difficult for the children. But at the same time between them was a very strong brotherly love and intimacy. This hard story of the boys rallied. Read more "

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"

Photo: from the archive of K. Novikova

Since then, Andrew did not appear and never called the children. But repeatedly appealed to the court to reduce the amount of alimony. There, however, already the debt was formed. Now he was given a minimum wage – about twelve thousand rubles – and the money began to come periodically. In any case, he is the father of my children, and I wish him happiness.

I returned to the group "Brilliant". Worked a lot. For three years I had no relationship. I could not even imagine that I would introduce someone to Miron and Bogdan. I was comfortable with my beloved boys and parents who lived next to us.

Often I heard from friends that. It seemed to me stupid: "If a man loves you, he will love your continuation. And in general in relation to another’s child at once it is possible to understand, that for the person before you ". How could I be wrong!

Once I come sad to my friend, and Ira suddenly says: "Listen, I have a friend Leszek. Let me introduce you? Not married. The son, the truth, is, but with his mother Alex does not live. Good, reliable guy. Has its own business. I recently saw him, just like you, you can not find a big and pure love. "

I did not have time to answer anything, as she already calls to him and invites me to call. Alexei made a very pleasant impression. Learning about the fact that I have two boys, I suggested together to go to an auto exhibition.

He conquered my children at once, played football, a war. Infinitely the to attractions, to the cinema. The boys vied with each other in praise of Lesha, they waited impatiently for a visit. What else does the mother need if her children are happy?! Yes, I myself was from him in raptures.

First Lesha just came, then he began to spend the night sometimes, then he carried things-panties, sweaters. When I saw them, we went to the store together and bought a bunch of clothes. So he is quietly dug in from us. He blossomed, we grew a fashionable beard to him, in general, he became an impressive man.

Alexei immediately said:

– I have a son. There is Tanya – his mother. We were not married, and I do not live with her, but I am engaged in his son and give him a lot of time.

I was delighted:

– Oh, how great! Well, what a fine fellow!

I thought: Well, I did not marry her, something didnt grow together, probably. The main thing – the guy did not give up, for which he received from me in the coin box of his virtues. My children at first.

Once they stayed with my parents. Someone from the boys dropped the toy, and I climbed to get it from under the couch. Suddenly I heard from behind the voice of Lesha: "Today we will announce that we are going to get married." Actually, that was his proposal. Weeks later went to the jeweler to pick up the ring, and suddenly my fianc√© said that he would better order from his jeweler with the purest diamond! Ordered. (Now I think now: we should check whether this is a diamond …)

In general, not life, but a fairy tale! We rested together, he always called my parents. It’s hard to say who paid for what, because we had a common budget, I sang in "Brilliant" and earned quite well. Read more "

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"

Photo: from the archive of K. Novikova

He liked what I do. And phrases like "I do not need to glow in the press" were nothing more than coquetry. He liked it all, flattered, especially when photographers approached us. He accompanied me everywhere, even if I went to a manicure. In the salon the girls laughed: Ksenia does a four-hour manicure and a pedicure, and Lesha is waiting in the armchair. He explained that he had had a free schedule and that he had all the working negotiations he had on the phone.

And then I left the Brilliant. Somehow I met my friend Slava Medyanik. Remembered the previous years, and Slava says: "Ksyusha, help to create a women’s group, hold a casting." While engaged in casting, he had another idea: "Let’s sing, too?" In general, let’s call the group "Ksyusha". I agreed. The producers of "Brilliant" did not like it, I had to leave.

With "Ksyusha" did not work out, and I began to perform solo. Of course, the concerts became much smaller. I do not like corporate parties, I rarely agreed to them. Without events and starry parties, Leszek. We lived in a country house, but if I slept on the second floor, then Lesha downstairs on the couch.

After I stopped being a soloist of a famous band, Alexei’s attitude to my children changed dramatically. And for his son, who often stayed with us, experienced up to shaking. God forbid, the child will bleed from the nose! The council of doctors collected!

Last summer a big company in Turkey. Flew my parents, children, including the son of Lesha, a nanny and two more families. In general, the whole gypsy camp!

In Turkey, my boys first started complaining about Alexei, they even cried: why is everything his son, and he only punishes them, phones for the slightest offense. A "little son" could beat other children, and he got away with everything. Once I escaped somewhere, we did the whole hotel for the two of us. And nothing! Dad already a minute later with him swimming in the sea. And Miron and Bogdan are sitting on the beach for lunch. I come to Lyosha:

– Why, after all that we have experienced here, you splash with him instead of bashing ask?

"I already punished him."

Well, I think it’s not going to work. I will not let my children offend! She took the boys and swam. I’m not against punishments, but they must be commensurate with misdemeanors. And then, not in the tone of the answer, lost a tablet, and once a month. Naturally, I as a mother-eagle defended their guys. Why would someone, even a husband, punish my children like that? I will first sit down before myself and find out the reason. If the child is really not right, you can, for example, cancel the promised trip to the cinema or the the evening of sweets. In doing so, explain that he understood the causes and consequences of his misconduct.

I think it was in Turkey that the boys experienced a turning point. The brothers stopped trusting Alexei. To all else he was a liar, and children feel it. His lies and my parents. For example, I had a serious operation to remove a hernia on the cervical vertebrae. I lie in the hospital, my mother is calling and she says that there are no fruits at home, we should buy vitamin supplements for children. I think it’s strange, Alexei went to the store, maybe he forgot. Contact: Read more »

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"Photo: from the archive of K. Novikova

– Lesha, buy fruit for children, they do not.

– How not? I bought it yesterday. Here lie peaches, grapes, bananas, oranges …

I call my mother:

– Mom, what are you saying to Leszek? He bought everything, they have everything.

"I swear, daughter, there’s nothing!"

I dial the nurse. And she reports that for a long time.

The children later called him Lesha-liar. Once I come home, Miron cries: Alexei punished him. The husband explained that his son was rude to him, and then he also sent. I do not believe my ears. Miron yells: "Mom, no! Bogdan and I used to say bad words, but not to Leshe! "

I to Alexey:

– My older children do not send. That’s impossible!

– You do not believe me ?!

But Lesha did not take into account that we had a kitchen next to the living room and there was a nurse who heard everything: "Xenia Andreevna, there was nothing like that! Lesha invented everything. "

My husband was frightened! The matter is that I never punished my children physically and at any opportunity from Alyosha:

"I told you, it was necessary with boys like a man!" And you and Marina (as he is called my mother-in-law) wear with them like a written baggage.

– We do not move with them, we love them and protect them. We try to educate properly and motivated, without cruelty.

Leshin’s son is not only his father, he does not make other people’s penny. I explained: "You did not raise your own, he still loves you a priori, because he is a native son. For my boys, you are an admitted father, and they do not have this unconditional love for you. With them you can only make friends. They immediately became imbalanced with you, because you became their companion. And now you just try to educate. So they moved away. You became unpleasant to them. "

Relations with her husband spoiled more and more. Alex constantly tried to demonstrate that I depend on him financially, and in such nasty trifles, when, for example, a child needs to transfer two thousand rubles for dinners. Within a week I forgot to ask. Finally: "Okay, I’ll translate it." Now, when we split up, I learned how to use an online bank, everything connected. I do translations for ten seconds. And I understand that it was just pure water mockery.

Despite the fact that I never sat on his neck-concerts, though rare, but were, he liked to emphasize: I keep your whole family.

It was clear that we should be looking for a good concert director. It was at that moment that the producer of "Brilliant" Andrei Grozny had an idea to return me to the band. I remember, I laughed:

– Listen, I will return after each parting from my husband, or what?

– What happened?

– Yes, I get divorced. How did you feel.

Shortly before that, Alexei said that he was flying with his colleagues in Thailand. On business … Intuition prompted: it’s dark. For two weeks he did not send a single photograph of the person with the people he allegedly rested with. Then I learned that the "colleagues" was a woman with a child. Opening his suitcase, I saw neatly folded things. This is absolutely not in the style of Alexei. Read more "

Ksenia Novikova: "I do not know how to choose men"Photo: from the archive of K. Novikova

I did not make scenes and humory myself with scandals. In the evening, went down to the living room, where he, as usual, lay on the couch, and said:

– Lesch, let’s get divorced?

– Come on! He immediately agreed. – Just in two days another payment for the house is coming, maybe you’ll collect your things and leave?

– What ?! In two days I will collect all things, children, dogs and leave? How is this possible?

– Okay! So be it, I’ll pay you a rent for another month.

At the same time the whole next month continued to live with us. He came whenever he wanted, changed his clothes and disappeared again. She was taking care of him, our nanny was washing things, about which he said that he would not pay it. Like, pay yourself, if you need it. You should be so petty!

Initially, I lived in a rented apartment, although I have my own, but for our family too small. For a big, even when there was Alex, I always paid myself. Then we moved out of town. By the way, while they lived in a rented house, they built their own. So now he also has to share, althoughaboutThe greater part of the investment.

When we decided to get divorced, we agreed that we would do everything quickly. Have appointed a date, on the eve of receiving SMS: "I can not, let’s on another day." We agree in a couple of weeks. I clarify the day before the meeting: "Everything is in force, tomorrow in the registry office?" The answer: "I flew away."

Only now did I understand the tactics of Lesha’s behavior. He chooses a mom with children. A single mother, as a rule, is offended by men. Alexei finds an approach to her through a child, who pays a lot of attention. Itself, from itself, represents nothing, but beautiful women are carried on their relation to their children. He chooses a young lady with either prosperity or with status. Rubbed into trust. Because he does everything: he sits behind the wheel of your car, he is engaged in children. In my case, Lesha immediately said that he was ready to take on all my affairs, even to answer letters and calls. Like, now I’m your director!

Recently I learned that one of my former girls was trying to contact me at the beginning to warn me. But with the post, her husband, her warnings.

The girl with whom he flew for a vacation, he had a long time in mind, like they even met at the beginning of our relationship. But I was preferable, because the actress. Through me it was convenient to make the necessary acquaintances.

Looking back, I think: what a fool I am! It’s time to take off the rose-colored glasses! But there is a hope that the sad experience will be beneficial. And I will finally choose the worthy.

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